Government Affairs

Lessons from My Father

 

 

Jessica Maldonado, our public affairs manager, recently lost her father.  She reflects about what she learned from him in a piece for the Business Record.

To hear all the stories from women in our circle of family and friends made me think that lessons I learned from my dad may be valuable to others as well. While there are far too many to completely cover, here are some highlights:

  • Be honest. Honesty and integrity were the top traits mentioned by my dad’s colleagues and friends at his visitation. Nothing means more than your word, and it was clear that many people throughout the community truly valued his.
     
  • Take the emotion out of it. His wise advice was to never take something personally if people simply tell you their opinion or stance on an issue, especially in the business world. His counsel was always to remove emotion from the issue to analytically think through it and formulate a response based on facts. It is always OK to be passionate about your opinion, but express it in a way that will be well-received on the other end.   
     
  • Tell people what they need to hear, not what they want to hear. My dad was famous for his advice, even when it was unsolicited. There was never an "elephant in the room" with him around; he made sure to speak up and say what others were likely thinking in a way that was never offensive. It helps me remember to make sure I am honest with a friend or colleague when they ask for my opinion on a professional or personal matter.
     
  • Never try to negotiate if you aren’t willing to walk away. My dad often said this about the purchase price of horses, which my sister and I thought were priceless, but he also applied it to other personal and professional situations. Whether it’s negotiating a purchase price, a salary increase or a new opportunity, my dad said you should never negotiate unless you’re willing to accept the fact it may not go your way. Asking yourself if you are willing to walk away from it is a good gut check before you start the process.
     
  • Don’t look through rose-colored glasses. From the time I was little, my dad always cautioned me not to look at things through a false lens that paints too rosy of a picture. The road to get where we want in life is usually bumpy, and we need to prepare for it.
     
  • But dream big. Although my dad told us not to look at things through a tinted lens, he was always supportive of our crazy dreams. As long as we were aware of the challenge and faced it with eyes wide open, he supported us in everything we did.
     
  • Live for today. This is the hardest lesson to learn, and I’m sure one he wishes he didn’t have to teach. Live each day to the fullest, and find a job you love because the golden years of retirement are not guaranteed. Sorry to all my financial planner friends, but I learned that although it is important to save for retirement, you should also order steak and lobster at fancy restaurants, buy the plane ticket, bid in the charity auction, always choose the good wine and buy the darn horse.

    Read the complete story here.